Showing posts from January, 2012

A Mother’s Angst

From My Personal Diary:

25th January 2012
I've been leaving my child behind with the maid more often nowadays. I don't know if it’s a good thing or not. For the last 3 and a half years, I've been there for my child every single day of her life for most of her waking hours. Now I go home past her suppertime.
It’s killing me. I know I have no option bcos I need to work and I love what I do. And it makes me provide for her better. The logic is always there. But sometimes the heart is unwilling.
The problem is not really that I leave her so much as I leave her with a maid. There aren't grandparents around who can manage her growth or a sibling that she can play with or even fantastic friends for her to hang out with in the evening. She has no one except an old maid who doesn't know how to read, write, or put on a movie for her. So they play with bartans. Or watch cartoons. Or go down in the lawn where my child sits with the maid since they're no kids her age in the…

Love Guru Advice: Long Distance Relationships

Dear Love Guru,I fell in love with a man and we had some amazing dates. Then he got a job abroad and left. Right now, we have a long-distance relationship and it’s becoming stressful. Both of us are middle-class people who can’t afford to travel up and down often. What should I do?
Lost @ Sea

Dear Lost at Sea,
Long-distance relationships are extremely tough. You need to have so much more love, patience and trust than you do with a relationship where you meet often. So start by giving that instead of demanding it.
Use technology to the best of your advantage. Skype often to see what both of you are doing. Text
message each other whenever you think of him.
Make your conversation more about the other person, your common interests, something new you learned that day and how you’re both feeling. Keep the conversations light and fresh. Don’t get boring. If it starts dragging, take a break for a few days and then come back and talk to him.
Never blame the other person for not being…

Love Guru Advice: In Love With a Divorcee

Dear Love Guru, I am in love with a divorcee. My parents will never approve of the match, especially because he has two kids as well. But we do want to be together and I don’t know what to do. Yours,
Second Chances

Dear Second Chances, Did you know that Madhubala met Kishore Kumar when he was married to Ruma Guha? Shilpa Shetty met Raj Kundra when he was still married and Dharmendra met Hema Malini after he was married with two sons and Boney Kapoor married Sridevi, which was his second, and her first wedding. We all come with baggage, whether it is emotional or family. If a person loves you for who you are and is willing to spend the rest of his life with you, your parents should be happy that you have found someone who wants to accommodate his life to involve you. However, a second marriage for him will not be easy. You must respect his time with his family and never try to impose yourself on his children. Become t…

Authors Speak About Writing: A Chat With Preeti Shenoy and Madhuri Banerjee

I was chatting with my friend Preeti Shenoy on BBM today and we felt that it was such a nice conversation that we should share it with more people. I loved how we could go from chatting about random things to talking about the writing process which we hope to do more often. I feel rejuvenated when I speak to fellow authors about work. It gives me a new perspective. This is the first part of our chat.

A Chat Between Two Female Authors:
Preeti Shenoy: I must tell u something interesting. I was googling to read ur blog. Madhuri Banerjee: Ya Preeti Shenoy: So I type in madhuri banerjee, and it suggests “madhuri banerjee husband” Madhuri: Hahahaa Preeti Shenoy: So many must be googling Madhuri: Husband as in apply for husband? Preeti Shenoy: People must be curious I guess! Madhuri: Hahahah. That wd be nice tho… I always wanted a swayamvar... Preeti Shenoy: I read that article on your blog…Abt three scenarios of extra marital affair. I really liked the piece. (called http://madhuribanerjee.blogspot.…

My Cover Letter.

I was contacted by an HR consultant who wanted me to write a cover letter along with my CV. I groaned. Did I have to? Yes, she said, it's very important for employers to know a little bit more about you that goes beyond bullet points. Fine. So I sat and wrote out a cover letter. I don't know how it's supposed to be. But if it's about knowing a little bit more about me, then here goes:

Name of Cover Letter - Creativity:

After becoming a mother I realised how much balance is required if you want to succeed. From being inundated with daily domesticity to churning out a book I finally found myself challenged and fulfilled.
Within a span of two years I wrote a bestselling novel, started a production house, became a columnist for Asian Age, a Blogger for CNN-IBN online, opened a Twitter account, managed a facebook page for my book and created a website for myself. All the while bringing up my child with a minimum support system.
I began to finally understand that multitask…