Monday, January 9, 2012

Love Guru Advice: In Love With a Divorcee

Dear Love Guru,
I am in love with a divorcee. My parents will never approve of the match, especially because he has two kids as well. But we do want to be together and I don’t know what to do.
Second Chances

Dear Second Chances,
Did you know that Madhubala met Kishore Kumar when he was married to Ruma Guha? Shilpa Shetty met Raj Kundra when he was still married and Dharmendra met Hema Malini after he was married with two sons and Boney Kapoor married Sridevi, which was his second, and her first wedding. We all come with baggage, whether it is emotional or family. If a person loves you for who you are and is willing to spend the rest of his life with you, your parents should be happy that you have found someone who wants to accommodate his life to involve you. However, a second marriage for him will not be easy. You must respect his time with his family and never try to impose yourself on his children. Become their friend first and respect them as individuals. A marriage whether it is first for you or second for him is about compromise and love. Give each other plenty of time together as a couple to grow together. Before taking the plunge, talk through issues regarding more children, finances and parents’ time with the family. Convince your parents that if you have found your soul mate, how does it matter if he’s a divorcee? He is still a wonderful man! And after all, it’s still your life.


Grem Ivana said...

Yes, it's your life. And you need to grow up, first of all.
If you intend to take responsibility for your soulmate and children, then it is absolutely necessary to feel the burden of responsibility for youself at first. Otherwise, problems with your back and irritability are garantee for you.

MyGrahak said...

Yes, it is required to find the one you love. The divorcee part comes much later. If you have the compatibility, you should go for it.

Divya Bhaskar

AMODINI said...

Agree with your advice, but Dharmendra as an example? He didn't divorce his first wife, AND married Hema. Polygamy - not quite the role model.

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