Asian Age Relationship Advice Column: To Get Back With An Ex or Not!
Dear Love Guru,
Recently, my ex and I became friends again. Now he says he wants to get back with me. I’m currently single and don’t know what to do. Please help.
Dear Rinku,We always have two choices to every dilemma. With each choice, we can expect at least two different results. Choice 1: Go back to your ex. With this, you can expect - Result A: You understand each other and get back into familiar routines. Result B: Start discovering something new about each other. With the first consequence, you will realize again the reasons you broke up. It could be boredom, not meeting expectations, ego hassles, etc. With the second, you will start wondering where he picked up the new bits and pieces of his personality. You will start becoming suspicious, jealous, and possessive and wonder why you couldn’t do those things for him. This will again lead to fights. Choice 2: Stay away from your ex. You have an opportunity to start afresh with someone. Maybe that person hasn’t come into your life yet, but it doesn’t mean he won’t. The Universe is giving you time to understand yourself, what you want and where you want to go instead of crowding your space with another person who you spend all your energy on. This could mean 1: Patience will pay off. 2: You might learn something about life along the way! Nobody stays “friends” with their ex. At best, they can be “friendly.”