Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Wonder Women


Women are wondrous explosions of love. We must never keep them stifled in a box of stereotypes and institutions. Yet in our society, we continuously criticize women. We say things such as they’re not good mothers, wives, daughters, cooks, homemakers or workers. Then that is followed up with they’re too fat, thin, ugly, stupid, brash, docile and it continues. It goes on so that we feel better about ourselves and fail to realize we’re sending out negative energy. This affects how we behave in our daily lives. We fall prey to our own undoing. By saying harmful things about each other, we think we are superior to those women. However, it comes back in some manner. Women believe what people say. Insecurities set in. They try to remove them like a bad stain that doesn’t disappear. And then something else is mentioned in a casual remark and it affects us so deeply that we fall into depression. Suddenly we are trapped by our own psyche that thinks we’re not worthy, we’re not good enough, we don’t deserve love. That is not true. This is all because of the negative energy we have sent out. We have to first stop judging other women. It needs to start from you. Because when women judge other women, the men follow suit. Every woman deserves to be pampered, cherished, and worshiped. Every woman deserves the best that life can give. We need to become far more than the sum of what is expected from us. We need to be our own beacon of light and shine for each other and ourselves.

11 comments:

Bubblegum.... said...

Very very true! World is good if we are good!

Rach said...

First time commenter.. I just had to pipe in for this post, because it resonates so strongly. The biggest mistake women make is to join in the criticism.

Madhuri Banerjee said...

Thank you so much.

Madhuri Banerjee said...

Thanks Shanoj :)

annie said...

so true..i constantly find myself being judged and judging myself on the basis of others..often my accomplishments...my perceptions of my body comes from others..

Bharathi Bhaskar said...

Thanks for being back on the blog and awaiting THE next book. I actually wanted your idea on how to hold on to your self-esteem in a r'ship inspite of being madly into him because i break down completely when i fight with him.

Madhuri Banerjee said...

Bharathi,
The best thing to do when you know you're going to break down is to take a walk or remove yourself from that space. Spend time in understanding why you had the fight not in terms of the problem itself but in the people you are. If you can alter your nature towards each other and give each other respect while still having differences, it's a successful relationship. But if you find yourself constantly breaking down, ask yourself what you're getting out of it. Explain it to him. Communicate, introspect, reflect.
Be brave, be strong, be wiser with every fight.
Love
Madhuri

nish said...

omg, wonderfully tracked the root cause of it, excellent article.

Supriti Banerjee said...

Hello Mam....

It was really awesome post, and being a women I found it very very true..!! Just waiting for ur "NEXT BOOK".

Please update abt ur next book...

Regards
SUPRITI

Supriti Banerjee said...

Hello Mam....

It was really awesome post, and being a women I found it very very true..!! Just waiting for ur "NEXT BOOK".

Please update abt ur next book...

Regards
SUPRITI

Madhuri Banerjee said...

Thanks Supriti.
My next book should be out later this year around October if all goes well. :)

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