Foreplay seems like a land Far Far way, where no man has
ever gone. And no man has ever understood.
Foreplay is that word, that phenomenon, that enigma that
eludes the comprehension of every male in the world. Yes, there are a few who
will say they can last “45 minutes.” Or even declare, “They can give the best
orgasm to the woman.” But do not kid yourself when you say you are good at
foreplay. No matter how many educational degrees you have acquired, or diploma
courses you’ve taken in your life, foreplay is the one course that you’ve never
been interested in. Foreplay is the degree, the idea, the intent that you need
to master to keep your woman, any woman at your mercy always.
Now before you understand what foreplay is you must change
three things about yourself.
1.
Patience – You will need patience to master this
phenomenon.
2.
Softness – You will need delicate fingertips and
be gentle when you have foreplay.
3.
Timing – If you move to an erogenous zone too
fast, you’ve lost your woman. She will be thinking of her chores and
immediately say she has a headache.
Men don’t need foreplay too much. They love a blow job. Need
a little ear tickle. And presence of a woman. Not necessarily in that order.
But women always need foreplay. Otherwise they’ll agree to have sex with you
once or twice, but you can rest assure that it will not be fantastic, she may
lie there like a corpse and/or if she is married she will figure out how to
have an affair.
So the key of giving great foreplay is to go slowly. So
remember to spend at least 4-5 minutes on each zone.
The 9 Erogenous Zones
to Great Foreplay:
1.
Mouth – You must be able to kiss her without
your hands roaming all over her body. Hold her close. Stroke her hair. Kiss her
lips, corners of her mouth, gently use your tongue to arouse her further. Do
not use your tongue vigorously. You don’t always need to prove you’re passionate.
Prove you are gentle and she’ll respect you more.
2.
Neck - Nibble at her ears, behind her neck, down
the length of her neck and shoulders. Slowly blow air as you kiss and blow
simultaneously across her neck and shoulders, crossing to the other side and
repeating the action. Each side taking a few minutes.
3.
Arms – With the tips of your fingers you can
stroke your woman’s. Remember counting is important here. While you run your
three or four fingers alternatively down her arm, it should take you about ten
– fifteen seconds per each length. Place them gently on her arm from shoulder
to finger tips as if you’re a slow energy that is drumming against her and
pulling away at her fingers.
4.
Back - Once she feels comfortable to remove her
clothes, swivel her around slowly and use the tips of your fingers to make
patterns on her back. Not your entire palm. Just your fingers. Raise your
fingers and place them gently back again, giving her a bit of suspense where
she will be touched next. Pretend to make waves with your fingertips across her
back. Remember to finish one pattern of a wave down her back before you begin
making concentric circles, or making waves her along the length of her sides
timidly near her breasts.
5.
Knee – Here is a secret. Under the knee is one
of the most erogenous zones of a woman and rarely explored. Put your fingers
together, not in a fist, as if you’re making a flower bud, hold it under her
knee and release the fingertips as if the flower is opening. Do this very
gently for ten seconds till the entire fingertips open. Do this a few times
even on one knee. You don’t need to do it on both sides. One knee is enough for
arousal.
6.
Toes – Many women love getting their toes
sucked. Gently run your fingers across her pedicured feet and take her one toe in
your mouth at a time. You don’t need to spend too much time here.
7.
Breasts – Gently running your fingertips across
both her breasts will arouse her more than you tugging at them. Flick her
nipples with your tongue. Rub your tongue around the areola. Kiss her breasts.
Sometimes you don’t need to suck or tug. Also you don’t need to head to the
other side and do the same with the other breast unless she asks you. The
purpose is to arouse her, not to find balance in life.
8.
Clitoris – Most men hate going down on women.
But you can always use your fingers. Once she is aroused from all the other
zones, put two fingers in and keep your thumb out. Gently move the two fingers
in and out and move the thumb in circles around, outside the vagina. If you can
kiss her, lick her, probe your tongue into her alternatively while using your
fingers, you’ve pretty much mastered foreplay.
9.
Brain – Do not indulge in dirty talk while you
are trying to arouse your woman. You can do that later during intercourse. Or
you can do it on the phone when you can’t feel each other. But while you are
being gentle, slow and sensitive, you must indulge in silence or simple
questions like “Do you like this. Do you want more? Where do you want me to
touch you?” Let her lie back and enjoy herself. Keep conversation about her.
Warning – Do not mention anything
related to house, children, finances, in laws, body weight, your work, bosses,
maids, etc. A woman’s mood is as delicate as china ware. No matter how much of
the above zones you have aroused, one mention of the above topics will shatter
her want and see her getting dressed and putting on her favourite TV show.
Having foreplay may be a slightly
longer process to getting sex but it’s a sure shot process and it will leave
the woman desiring you forever!
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