Monday, July 9, 2012

Love Guru Advice : Wedding Night Jitters

Dear Love Guru,
I’m getting married next week and I’m having the wedding jitters. I’m still a virgin and don’t know how to approach my husband. What if he laughs at me? Pl help.
Truly Nervous,
Bindiya
Dear Bindiya
It is normal to be nervous and anxious about your wedding night. But you should stop being afraid of the act. First, tell your husband that you’re a virgin and to be gentle. Second, get into the mood of the act. Buy some lubricants for yourself. Light some candles around the room. Wear a soft, satin negligee. If you can think that you’re going to have fun, you probably will. Third, don’t do any stunts that you may have seen in movies, videos or read about. Let him take the lead for now. Be comfortable with your husband. Start with lots of foreplay – kissing, cuddling, touching, necking, stroking. Don’t be afraid to explore his body and let him explore yours. Ease into the act. Don’t tense up. Preferably, don’t have people swarming around your bedroom door! Let them all go away before you begin. Remember the first time will be a little difficult and there may be some discomfort. Try again till you get into a rhythm and let your body go with the flow. Sex is a great way to connect with your husband and you’ll soon love it! P.S – Even if he does laugh, laugh with him. It’s supposed to be fun and the first time is awkward for everyone!

6 comments:

raman said...

Mam,nowadays there is a lot of different types of views about men with a clean chest or with a bit fur...what do u think about it?I would like to know about your point of view on this weird matter.

Harsh9 said...

Wonderful advice, and true. Its not just women who are nervous, men too are nervous. Its the same intense fire on both the sides. So probably, talk, be relaxed and make most of your new life ;)
caressing & cuddling are the ACE of spade, use them wisely :)

cheers!
Love,
Harsh

Harsh9 said...

Wonderful advice, and true. Its not just women who are nervous, men too are nervous. Its the same intense fire on both the sides. So probably, talk, be relaxed and make most of your new life ;)
caressing & cuddling are the ACE of spade, use them wisely :)

cheers!
Love,
Harsh

Madhuri Banerjee said...

Very well said Harsh. Too much importance is given to the wedding night all thanks to Bollywood. We should be comfortable with our partners and not force anything. Nothing needs to "happen" on that night since most couples would be exhausted from the ceremony and the hullabaloo around the wedding.
Let love take it course in bed as well I say!

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